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Authentic & scientific self-help for your paruresis

WeMingo guides you through the initial steps of recovery so you can live a more joyful life

November 16, 2017
It's the best! In a long history of suffering from paruresis, this has been the most helpful resource for me. WeMingo has given me plenty of new advice and tools just a few modules in to the program.

How does WeMingo help me?

WeMingo is the first online self-help program for paruresis (“shy bladder syndrome”). It provides you with the structure, knowledge, and techniques necessary to achieve sustainable improvements.

WeMingo helps you...

  • Understand what exactly happens when you “lock up” and what that means for recovery
  • Identify avoidance behavior that reinforces your anxiety (e.g. drinking less at parties or taking detours to get to a “safe” bathroom)
  • Stop constant worries by structuring your thoughts through expressive writing
  • Form an actionable plan that motivates you to challenge your fear rather than trying to ignore it
  • Identify and shut down common thinking errors that distort your perception
  • Overpower the overly negative automatic thoughts that arise whenever you are about to visit a bathroom
  • Overcome your anxiety by carefully confronting it
  • Steer clear of safety behavior that might undermine your gradual exposure practice
  • Finally deal with the problem using proven techniques

Who can benefit from WeMingo?

WeMingo is there for you if you...

  • Feel like you can’t live up to your full potential, because of ongoing stress about urinating in public bathrooms
  • Feel insecure when you are away from a “safe” bathroom
  • Avoid social events in order to evade the problem
  • No longer want to rely on “tricks” (such as drinking less, holding it until painful levels, or taking big detours to a “safe” bathroom)
  • Look for an alternative to face-to-face therapy, because it's not easily accessible or simply seems “too big”
  • Want to experience therapeutic techniques rather than just reading about them
  • Have been trying to improve on and off, but you need more structure for sustainable progress
  • Look for authentic & scientific help: WeMingo was developed by a former paruretic in collaboration with online therapy experts from Freie Universität Berlin, Germany.

Self-help program

  • Numerous explanations & exercises for improving your quality of life
  • Proven techniques from cognitive behavioral therapy
  • Use anonymously
  • Start right away


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Frequently asked questions

No, WeMingo is merely an addition to the existing treatment options. I list additional contact persons and resources at the end of the program, if you should feel like you need further support.

WeMingo is not a substitute for the personal consultation, examination, diagnosis and therapy by a therapist or doctor. In fact, I recommend to undergo a professional medical screening by a urologist in order to rule out physical causes of your urination difficulties.

Yes! The efficacy of online interventions has been proven for a broad spectrum of mental illnesses and anxiety disorders in a variety of scientific studies.

Some key insights from relevant research:

  • mean treatment effects of online therapy across all disorders and forms of intervention is medium to large (Spek et al., 2007)
  • therapeutic effects achieved are comparable to those of traditional psychotherapy (Andersson et al, 2014)
  • online interventions can be highly effective in the treatment of social anxiety disorders (Berger et al., 2009)

I know there are a questionable products and services out there that promise you "instant results". I fully understand if that raises some healthy skepticism about WeMingo as well.

Here are a few things that I would like you to know:

  • I'm putting my full name and personal story to the project (read more about it on About Wemingo)
  • I have been awarded with a public grant to support my work on WeMingo. The "Berlin Startup Scholarship" was financed by the Senate of Berlin and the European Social Fund. You can find the official announcement here.
  • I have created the program in collaboration with online therapy experts from Freie Universität Berlin
  • The program has been reviewed by several practicing clinical psychologists that have contributed extensive feedback
  • I'm not promising "a cure in 7 days". I know from personal experience that it takes time to overcome habits and fears that have formed for years or even decades. WeMingo does guide you through the initial steps of recovery and does set you up for sustainable improvements. But I'm not making unworldly claims that don't hold up in real life.
March 13, 2017
WeMingo has provided me with the means that have allowed me to make great progress in overcoming my paruresis! It motivates me every day to face my fear!

About WeMingo

WeMingo is the first online self-help program developed specifically for paruresis.

As part of the Berlin Startup Scholarship program, the WeMingo team received public grants financed by the Berlin Senate Department for Economics, Energy and Business and the European Social Fund. As part of the program, the team received mentoring from the faculty of clinical psychology at the Freie Universität Berlin.

More about the team and history of WeMingo in About WeMingo.

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More information about paruresis

On our page What is paruresis? we have collected answers to some common questions about the shy bladder syndrome.